The Basics

What is a scene?

A scene is a planned, agreed-on period of play with a clear start and end. You plan the boundaries, not a script.

1. 1

   Negotiate

   What's in, what's off-limits, safeword, rough length, aftercare needs.

2. 2

   Warm up

   Start light and build gradually.

3. 3

   Play with check-ins

   Green = good, yellow = slow down, red = stop.

4. 4

   Clear end

   An agreed end signal, or any red/safeword.

5. 5

   Aftercare

   Comfort and reconnection right after.

6. 6

   Follow-up

   Check in a day or two later.

Fake Dom vs Real Dom

• Fake Dom

  Demands obedience from the first message

  Real Dom

  Asks questions and negotiates first

• Fake Dom

  Asks for money, gifts or photos early

  Real Dom

  Never asks for money or images to "prove" anything

• Fake Dom

  Rushes you to meet or to go off-platform

  Real Dom

  Is fine with going slow and meeting at a public munch first

• Fake Dom

  Dismisses limits and safewords

  Real Dom

  Respects limits the first time

• Fake Dom

  Isolates you ("don't tell anyone about us")

  Real Dom

  Encourages your friends, community and a safety call

• Fake Dom

  Can't be vouched for by anyone

  Real Dom

  Has people in the community who know them

• Fake Dom

  "A real sub would..."

  Real Dom

  Never defines your submission for you

• Fake Dom

  "I'm the man, so I'm in charge"

  Real Dom

  Roles come from negotiation, not gender

Submission is earned. Knowledge is free.

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